Don’t Pop My Bubble
In shidduchim we need to look toward possibilities and potential. We do not hold onto self-righteous anger, we do not become cold and unfeeling, and we do not develop a victim mentality. We have to face opportunity with an open heart and from a place of yes.
Boys And Girls And Bullying
Girls tend to do more of the “mean girl” syndrome. The bullying is more underhanded and veiled. There is taunting and verbal abuse... On the other hand, with boys, you see more of the physical bullying: hitting and using physical aggression to intimidate.
Dr. Yael Respler
He needed to be pushed to his physical edge and to fight. He really needed to fight.
Dear Dr. Yael
If this is an emotionally abusive situation, you would need to get your son out of the marriage, but if you can get the couple help and your daughter-in-law changes, the marriage can be saved.
Different, Not Dumb
What are the causes behind output failure? Are we discussing actual dysfunctions of the brain – or does the term merely whitewash certain flaws in character?
Road To Recovery
Dear Brocha,
As I write this letter I am overcome with emotions. Relief, fear, trepidation, elation…the feelings are all jumbled up inside of me.
Please allow me to back track.
My daughter, who recently turned 20, just left to rehab. After four years of denial, lies, manipulation, anger and chaos she finally admitted she has a problem with alcohol.
Don’t Lie To Me!
Psychologists and educators agree on one point; the single most important criterion in raising truthful children is to expose them consistently to a home and school environment where integrity is not only preached but scrupulously practiced. Even when it involves sacrifice.
Anxiety Management
“Worrying is carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength – carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn't...
Learning A New Language: Speaking To Your Tween
Suddenly, it may start to feel like your like child does not want to speak to you at all. And this is especially difficult at this age since you may feel an even more pressing need to support and protect them as they gain independence.
The Struggles of Gifted Children
It’s true that your daughter might have trouble relating to children her own age, but as she gets older, she will be comfortable in all sorts of situations. Once she enters high school, her peers will have caught up with her and she will do equally well at interacting with her classmates as well as adults.
Multi-Generation Blended Family
Multi-generational families are making a comeback these days. For some the choice is made out of necessity because of the unstable economy, for others it is due to the physical needs of either the younger generation or aging parents. And then sometimes the decision to live this way is out of a mutual desire to be full and present participants in extended family life. For us it was a combination of factors that brought us to this point.
Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities
A Female Member of the Satmar Community in Williamsburg takes Deborah Feldman to task for her allegations in a recent newspaper interview…
The Demystification Process
Demystification is actually a wonderful tool for helping children overcome their learning disabilities because it enables children to understand how they learn.
Can Food and Anxiety Be Linked?
People who are emotional eaters use food to make themselves feel better. In other words, they eat to fill emotional needs, rather than to fill their stomachs.
Dear Dr. Yael
Chaya is frightened of being like her mother whom she considers a push-over. She prefers to be like her father who is the dominant one in the family.
Mending Fences
The difficulty lies in how teenagers perceive their surroundings. They often see the world as revolving around them and cannot understand why parents are always asking them to do things.
Dear Dr. Yael
How could he fight with someone who wasn't fighting back?
Dear Dr. Yael
Quality time means giving your undivided attention to your spouse.
Dear Dr. Yael
There are times when a psychiatrist will over-medicate, which is why it's important to find a psychiatrist whom you trust and feel comfortable with.
Dear Dr. Yael
Growing up, I saw the respect my parents had for each other. Then I got married...
Why Not Get Together With Friends?
Some yeshivish couples do not believe in going out with other couples, but that does not mean that the women cannot have social lives.
Balancing Respect And Reality
Dear Dr. Yael:
As a reader of all of your columns on hakaras hatov, here are my feelings as a child with loving parents.
Et Le’Ehov: The Newlywed’s Guide to Physical Intimacy
For most physicians specializing in the treatment of infertility, the subject of sexuality - and especially the "how to’s" of sex - are rarely a subject of concern.
The Shidduch-Shy
“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.”
Thus begins Jane Austen’s classic marriage-themed novelwork of marriage, Pride and Prejudice.
Defusing Tension With Kindness
The two proceeded to talk about everyday things and surprisingly her mother-in-law did not find anything else to criticize. This occurred a few more times, with my client changing the topic every time by complimenting her mother-in-law or mentioning something positive about her.