Finally, do all the things that you feel your husband is not doing for you. During your conversation, ask your husband what you can do to help bring the spark back in your marriage. (“Kemayim panim el panim, kein lev ha’adam” – when treating a person in a certain manner, he will likely treat you the same way in return.) So if you want your husband to be more loving and understanding toward you, reciprocate the actions you request of him. He will likely follow suit.
If none of these ideas are helpful, seek professional help. Now is the time to work on your marriage and get it back on track. Hatzlachah!