Photo Credit: Rifka Schonfeld

            Beware of choices. Our society loves options. We want to be able to choose between one thing and the next. “The more choices, the better” is the common wisdom. But, in reality, more is not always better. In fact, more choices can paralyze us and make it almost impossible to act. Stick with the options you have – most likely you will find one that perfectly suits you.

            Stop analyzing. When you find yourself stuck in a fit of indecision, it is often because you are over-thinking everything. You are thinking about the positives of one option and the negatives of the next. You are lining up the different calories in the dishes compared to the protein levels. You are deciding what you will eat for dinner if you eat this dish for lunch. But, if you are working this hard to order in a restaurant (or to make even a much bigger decision), it’s probably because either option is equally good or bad. Therefore, stop analyzing and just do it. If you can’t make a final decision, flip a coin. Because after all, not making a decision is a decision itself.

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The Upside of Indecision

While indecision can stop you in your tracks, it’s important to point out that it’s not always bad. There are people who don’t look before they leap, and make snap decisions that are not always the best choice. People who are indecisive take the time to weigh different options and come up with the best solution. The problem only arises when an indecisive person gets stuck in the “thinking” stage and never moves to the “doing” stage.

So, allow yourself to ponder the “big stuff,” but once you’ve done your thinking, take that leap! It’s better than constantly wavering on the edge.


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An acclaimed educator and social skills ​specialist​, Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld has served the Jewish community for close to thirty years. She founded and directs the widely acclaimed educational program, SOS, servicing all grade levels in secular as well as Hebrew studies. A kriah and reading specialist, she has given dynamic workshops and has set up reading labs in many schools. In addition, she offers evaluations G.E.D. preparation, social skills training and shidduch coaching, focusing on building self-esteem and self-awareness. She can be reached at 718-382-5437 or at [email protected].