One young man I know quickly changed his mind when he saw how the pretty and charming girl he was dating was critical of her father, telling her date her father was too lazy to shovel the sidewalk and apologizing for the snow he had to walk on when he picked her up. Obviously, she saw nothing wrong in belittling her father, that was probably “normal” in her home – but he wisely saw the writing on the wall and stopped seeing her.
Did she put on a “good show” in public and fool her references? Or did they know but rationalized marriage would help her “mature”?
The Heavenly Court will know and judge accordingly.