יום שלישי, כ״ח אב תשפ״וTuesday, August 11, 2026
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In this age of J-Date, bar scenes, parties it seems that finding a mate is near impossible. But do we really believe it is any more or less difficult now than in the past?
Every generation has its own daunting shidduch challenges. Unfortunately, finding the right shidduch is not a new phenomenon, nor is it limited to our contemporary world.
Is it because of corrupt values and lack of meeting opportunities that we have a shidduch crisis?
Singles tend to revert to the “perfect picture” that exists only in their minds.
I attended the recent Shabboton for frum divorced people and listened to your talk. You gave me hope to go on. I was very despondent when I came and went home considerably more upbeat. It was all due to your focus on “being a blessing.”
When in a quandary we must always turn to our holy books and search for answers.
Many singles are not facing a crisis of shidduchim but a crisis of identity, wrestling with existential questions most families simply do not have the time to consider.
My own experiences within the shidduch system has caused me to question it considerably.
Is this what three thousand and three hundred years of Jewish tradition has come to, that a nation that has always dared to walk alone, with different ideals and values from the wider culture, should so fully capitulate to the most corrupt, misogynistic values, that we would advocate that our young women have plastic surgery in order to get married?
Don't worry, Yitta, I'm not going to crucify you, as you feared. I actually agreed with the gist of your article, which was obviously heartfelt and well-intended. I just want to point out where you crossed a line...
By Yitta Halberstam Mandelbaum
I know I’m going to be crucified, but if the appeal I make below helps even one girl in shidduchim, then it will be worth all the fury and outrage that shall inevitably descend upon my soon-to-be beleaguered head.
August 7, 2026 
