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Henni Halberstam is a Dating and Marriage Coach whose expert advice will help you navigate dating and relationships in order to ensure a successful marriage. You can contact her at hennihalberstam@gmail.com to schedule a phone session.
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Men are attracted to women with a positive attitude; to women who approach life with enthusiasm and grace, packaged in genuine self-confidence.
My heart breaks for how you must have felt sitting there struggling to keep your smile in place while your sister shared her happy news.
You also consider yourself to have depth, so it is natural to want to meet someone that approaches life with a similar lens.
Right after you stop dating someone, especially someone you have gone out with for a while, it is normal to still think about that person.
When there is someone who leans toward one group, but doesn’t tick every box, people may still encourage them to accept the label in order to expedite the dating process.
It must be incredibly frustrating to hear that you are ‘picky’ from family and friends when you are diligently trying to find your zivug.
It is always a wonderful feeling to meet someone that really seems to “get you.”
You privately decide that you all look more like tree doubles, but worried about being turned into lumber you wisely keep quiet.
It is completely understandable that you would feel like there are so many other single girls in your position – because there are.
Even good reviews hold them back, because public knowledge makes the products seem cheaper and less exclusive.
Maybe she is so caught up in the “likes” that she is no longer able to focus on the actual and practical growth that she must put into her future marriage.
Your strength and desire to change is a testament to their parenting and love.
Your self-awareness and your ability to worry over their influence will only aid you in this process.
To expect financial support without any impact or input is immature and unrealistic.
Since this girl has known you for the same amount of time that you have known her, you have to assume that she has made her decision with careful thought and deliberation.
You no longer want to be bogged down by the minutiae that we sometimes focus on in shidduchim, yet your mother doesn’t seem to agree.
You’re tired, and I get it. Tired of being the single sibling, tired of helping the most, and tired of everyone treating you like you can’t possibly be OK on your own.
If someone interesting is suggested and he sounds promising to you, go out on a date. Date with honesty and integrity, and expect the same from the men you are set up with.
Unless your crystal ball works better than mine, no one can predict the future of any couple or knows what life may bring.
Eating at a restaurant can be expensive, but by paying the bill you are showing the girl that while you know that she may be able to afford her own meal, you don’t want her to.
If you happen to be traveling to another city and someone wants to set you up while you are there, go out on a date.
It is disturbing that so many boys and girls continue to be careless with their casual chatter about the people they have dated.
With more urgency, people started coming over to take a peek inside the box. The more we “oohed and aahed,” the more people rushed to look.
Perhaps they see your dating as an affront to your siblings, or they are worried that people might think that something is wrong with the older two if they focus on you.
Now is the time for you to focus on what you have to offer to this world, to your community, and to a spouse.
When you find that flavor, whether it’s cookies and cream or butter pecan, you need to order the cone.
So, while you are likely a wonderful girl, sitting at home waiting to win the Powerball is not a viable plan.
Politically correct wording and trending topics aside, every woman’s objective must always be to find her bashert so she can create an everlasting Jewish home in which she can raise her children.
You have been doing so well, striving for growth and joy every day.
Consider the information that they have received. Is it from a reputable source and is the information current?
Take the time to concentrate on your emotional and physical well-being – and summer is the perfect time.
What about a guy with a startup, an entrepreneur, or a tech guy who has created a business on his own? So many are achieving great success, their smarts undisputed, but you will have discounted them because they don’t fit your mold.
You are at a point where you need to make an informed decision, and you are worried about a variable that cannot be changed.
A new chapter can be scary when you are unsure of what to expect or when preconceived notions and previous negative experiences are holding you back.
It can feel impossible to be sufficiently witty and clever in the five-minute time slot allotted during a speed-dating round.
August 14, 2026 
