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At times, I'm happy your marriage is over. You weren’t getting along, and you told me things would be better this way. You said, We’ll have a happy divorce. But it doesn't feel very happy.
Even though Leah was the most popular girl in class, the other girls didn’t really like her. In fact, they were a little bit scared of getting on her bad side.
Another by-product of the unattended classroom is the friendship crisis a great many children suffer. While most children eagerly await recess and lunchtime as cherished opportunities for fun with playmates, there are some children who experience loneliness and rejection during these unstructured periods.
Children with experiential insatiability, are extremely hard to satisfy. School-related routines such as processing information and producing written work do not quell their appetites for intense experiences.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a common behavioral disorder that affects between 8-10% of school age children. Boys are three times more likely than girls to be diagnosed with ADHD.
Social competence enables us to know what to say, how to make good choices, and how to behave in diverse situations. The extent to which children and adolescents possess good social skills, say experts, can heavily influence their academic performance, social and family relationships, and later, their success on the job.
Many people believe that practice and a positive role model will solve all social issues, but what they do not understand is that sometimes people simply lack social intelligence when it comes to finding favor with others.
Children are not given choices and thus cannot shield themselves from failure; we expect them to be competent, if not expert, in a whole array of school basics.
Many students adapt very well to school; they feel good about themselves and their school work. For others, however, school is threatening. Getting through an average school day for some children is fraught with anxiety-producing situations and painful moments.
If comparing bullying to bullfighting seems very harsh, ask a child who was bullied.
The disorder is far more disabling than people realize, and consumes untold hours and outputs of energy.
Although she is well-behaved and articulate in class discussions, on the playground she will frequently barge in on other children's play or conversations.
She was moody and remote, absorbed in her books. She did well in school with barely any effort but her social skills lagged far behind her academic achievement.
The key to knowing where to start is to understand the four levels of communication.
For most children, basic social skills (e.g. initiating conversation, working cooperatively, respecting boundaries, observing conventional rules of courtesy) are acquired naturally.
Chanie’s mother tried to salvage the situation by calling her daughter to the side and whispering a few succinct reproaches in her ear.
OCD was long assumed to be purely psychological, the mind's reaction to overly-strict parents or abnormal emphasis on cleanliness. Scientists now believe it is the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain.
It makes a parent feel both helpless and angry at the same time. Helpless at the thought of having no control whatsoever over the situation. And angry that your child insists on behaving irrationally and well beyond acceptable modes of behavior.
Research shows that children do need friends, however, they do not need tons of friends nor do they need friends to surround them 24/7.
Why bring up the concept of emotional intelligence when discussing shidduchim? The answer is simple: if a young adult has a low EQ, no matter how smart or accomplished she is, she will never be able to show that to her prospective mate.
We all deal with anger once in a while. But, during the teenage years, anger is something that can take over both teenagers’ and parents’ lives.
As a general rule, distinguish between what is in our control and what is out of our control. We can control ourselves, but not those around us.
It makes sense that emotional intelligence is important when on a date. You are, after all, talking about emotions and feelings.
Because written language can be compared to a code, knowing the sounds of letters and letter combinations helps children decode words as they read. Knowing phonics will also helps students know which letters to use as they write words.
Though a six-year-old may seem a bit young for bullying, it is great to catch the behavior early because studies have shown that those who act as bullies seem to maintain these characteristics into adulthood, often negatively influencing their ability to develop mature adult relationships.
The first thing you can do is show her how her passion is really connected to academics... Aside from the ways that her goal can be linked academically, this will also help your daughter gain self-esteem.
Not only do children who read proficiently have an easier time in all academic areas, they also are more capable in social situations.
Ironically, no one knows just how hard these children are trying, yet they continue to fail miserably because their minds simply do not work the way normative reading instruction is taught.
Keep in mind that isolated symptoms are not an indication of dyslexia. Rather, it is only manifest when three or four symptoms consistently appear as a part of a pattern.
Recent studies have shown that children and adults who read fiction are better able to empathize with people in life. Perhaps exploring the emotional lives of others allows the reader to step into the shoes of the real people they interact with daily.
Girls tend to do more of the “mean girl” syndrome. The bullying is more underhanded and veiled. There is taunting and verbal abuse... On the other hand, with boys, you see more of the physical bullying: hitting and using physical aggression to intimidate.
Whole books have been devoted to studying why boys lag behind girls in terms of their reading skills and here are some of the reasons that scientists and educators have compiled.
When parents talk to their children as if they have a mind of their own and treat their children as individuals, they encourage children to look at others as individuals with their own feelings and emotions.
Many of the challenges and subsequent skills necessary for sleepaway camp are relevant for young men and women who go to yeshivos and seminaries in Israel after high school.
Social skills or interpersonal skills include verbal language, as well as our tone of voice, volume, inflection, and choice of words. They also include body language, gestures, and other non-verbal communication methods.
The process of shidduchim can be a challenging and complex journey for young individuals. Navigating the expectations of family and community, as well as developing effective communication and social skills, can be daunting for many individuals in the shidduch process.
Some say listening works best While others like observing the rest. Some students say they focus more When music, talking, or moving is in store. Others like to sit down and write Knowing the details is what makes them bright.
There are amazing resources available for note taking called graphic organizers. Graphic organizers are visual aids that can help students succinctly and quickly write down information.
Creating or studying images can help your daughter’s brain better store the information.
Dysgraphia can manifest itself as difficulties with spelling, poor handwriting and trouble putting thoughts on paper. However, children who suffer from dysgraphia often have reading skills that are on par with other children their age.
It’s hard to imagine that reading can have such profound effects, but studies show that the benefits of reading instruction on children with Down syndrome extend far beyond the classroom.
Like your daughter, gifted children tend to enjoy speaking to people who are on their mental level. This often means that they will have trouble communicating with children who are not as bright as they are.
Everything is more enjoyable when you do it with someone else – learning included.
Because our schools follow a dual curriculum, it is often hard for teachers to fit in enough time for recess during the day.
Every classroom needs rules, but instead of writing, No calling out, frame the rules in positive terms as Raise your hand before speaking.
While boys’ toys often involve principles inherent in math and science, girls’ toys focus on imagination and creativity. From these early experiences, it’s easy to understand why girls gravitate to English and history and boys are drawn to math and science.
While many gifted children are high achievers and excel in school, many gifted students are bored, unchallenged, or dealing with co-existing learning disabilities.
These forms of testing are great ways to know what students know, but they don’t always reflect the application of the skills they are learning every day.
Starting to assess student readiness, interests, and learning styles at the very start of the school year will enable teachers to better educate their students in the manner that is appropriate for individual students.
Children who struggle with social skills are less likely to participate in class, less likely to ask important questions when they don’t understand something, and more likely to fall between the cracks.
Textbooks can allow teachers to have a basis for their curriculum, but it is not a curriculum in and of itself.
Many people confuse the concepts of self-esteem and ego, assuming that if you believe in yourself you are automatically egoistic and arrogant.
We want to have the best job, the most well behaved children, the best hair or the tastiest challah. We make comparisons with other people and often weigh our own worth in relation to those comparisons.
Instead of reacting to what life throws your way, the idea is to be proactive and take responsibility for your life.
What happens if you can’t get away? There are some ways to help your body relax even in the confines of your own home.
While extremely frustrating to the parent, the American Academy of Family Physicians states that up until the age of six, bed-wetting is not abnormal.
In reality, separation anxiety can manifest itself at almost any age during childhood, especially during times of stress.
It makes sense that your daughter’s teachers would not have picked up on this in preschool because children are not often forced to speak in the learning process.
Researchers believe that the antibodies that children’s bodies build up in order to fight the strep infection begin to attack other parts of the children’s bodies once the infection is gone.
Social phobias are characterized not only by nervousness when in social situations or when forced to give a presentation or speech, but also by a powerful desire to avoid most situations that involve interacting with others.
Children with social phobias will withdraw from social situations and refuse to participate in extracurricular activities.
Don’t rethink it and change the plan. Instead, stick with it. You’ll ultimately be happier and less anxious.
Stay balanced. As painful as it is to watch your child feel isolated, you must maintain a calm countenance.
We can be thrown off by the content of the feedback itself. If the feedback is off, impractical or false, we can feel frustrated and wronged.
In order for Leah to set people more at ease, she has to be more comfortable herself.
Many people learn how to make friends without any direct instruction; however, there are some children who do not automatically pick up on social cues and may need to be specifically taught.
Many times, people might have the ability to make friends, but fail to maintain them because they lack the skills to translate the subtleties of language.
Right now, physicians do not agree when exactly a child should be diagnosed with PDD-NOS, autism, or Aspergers syndrome. Because of this, it is possible for the same child to receive different diagnoses from different doctors even as he exhibits exactly the same symptoms.
Don’t hesitate to look for help outside of your family – there are great resources out there – books, support groups, and other educational courses.
There’s nothing wrong with trying your best. In fact, giving it your best shot is what you should attempt to do every day...
his ability to compromise is an indispensable part of a successful relationship. Without compromise, marriages could never work.
As children enter elementary school, and reading becomes an integral part of the curriculum, children with learning disorders begin to struggle academically.
When still in school, it’s easier to make friends because you are forced into social situations. As an adult, making friends can be harder – especially because your life is busy.
Do sensory processing disorders affect academics? The answer, unfortunately, is a resounding yes.
Widen your options. Don’t go with a “whether or not” decision. Instead think “and” instead of “or.”
What’s the connection between women and shame? Why does it seem like women have so much more guilt than men?
Ask your daughter what the cause of her anxiety is – social, academic, or separation from you.
Try to place yourself in her shoes and say, I know you are trying to listen and sometimes that is difficult. Let’s try that again.
Even small, day-to-day acts of self-control such as maintaining good posture can reinforce longer-term self-control in activities that have nothing to do with your posture.
When still in school, it’s easier to make friends because you are forced into social situations. As an adult, making friends can be harder – especially because your life is busy.
For those who are introverted, being with people often feels like it is sapping their energy – even if they themselves have great social skills.
Twice exceptional children have a combination of exceptional intellectual power and uncommonly formidable mental roadblocks.
Children with APD often do not recognize subtle differences between sounds in words, even though the sounds themselves are loud and clear.
You know the material, but just don’t know how you will perform on the test. Try the power poses before. They will relax and empower you.
Demystification is actually a wonderful tool for helping children overcome their learning disabilities because it enables children to understand how they learn.
If you must vary the routine, prepare your child in advance for those changes through logical explanations. If prepared in advance, the transition will ultimately be a lot smoother.
The idea of mindfulness is to be present in your thoughts and actions. What that means is that when you are interacting with your child you are not worrying about the past or the future.
A lot of this unique and personal language that you develop with your child happens until around the time your child starts sixth or seventh grade.
Our experiences quite literally shape us – and more specifically – shape our brains.
Unconditional love means that you love your children and even as you set high expectations for them, you understand that they will make mistakes and you will love them regardless. Children need to understand this as well.
The element of Pride comes into the experience when there is a sense that courage and recognition drove a belief in the significance of the moment.
The strongest distinguishing characteristic of introverts is their energy source: Introverts draw energy from their internal world of ideas, emotions, and impressions.
Women have a particularly difficult time with shame because there are different (often stricter) societal expectations for women as mothers, fashion figures, and careerists.
Rather than attempting to modify behaviors right away, Dr. Greene advocates for solving the underlying problems.
A teen might never feel that he is truly part of the group if he is constantly hiding parts of himself.
Sometimes, it’s hard not to view parenting as a chore. But, if you approach parenting as a burden, you will ultimately stumble because it is impossible to happily carry a burden for twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, for a lifetime.
How can we become heroic parents? By helping our children learn how to create happiness in their own lives.
It’s important to remember that children are children. They will act immaturely. But, if we love them unconditionally, they will mature.
July 10, 2026 
