יום ראשון, ה׳ כסלו תשפ״זSunday, November 15, 2026
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Whether you or your child is suffering from an anxiety disorder or just plain old anxiety, there are still many things you can do in order to help control the anxiety.
It would be a good idea to seek professional help. If your husband refuses to go for help, it would still be helpful for you to seek your own professional help to assist you in navigating your husband’s anger.
Is he helping his family financially through a difficult time and has been forced to be careful?
The shidduch process has many challenges both for individuals and for communities as well.
Take time now to heal. If that is a week, a month, or more. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself as you process this experience.
Congratulations! You have decided to start a business and feel pumped, but you realized that marketing yourself is a big role in getting clients.
Emotional intelligence therefore grounds children as people who can interact positively with others and continue to develop even as the playing field gets more difficult and challenging. This extends to shidduchim as well.
I’m sure we can all agree that asking for a picture doesn’t stem from a deep desire to connect emotionally with someone prior to a date.
It is important to validate your daughter’s feelings and tell her that this behavior was unacceptable.
Of course, everyone is reading and writing about productivity today in a world that doesn’t sleep, and perhaps Duhigg’s book is an oversimplification of our daily race against the clock.
Once he understood the importance of respecting authority, he began to listen more appropriately to his Rebbeim, teachers, and the Menahel, understanding that they ultimately are seeking to help him succeed in life.
Leading however, with the notion that you are dating below your standards, or beneath your “criteria” is certainly something that your dates would feel.
Children will often get caught up in a power struggle: you pushing and them resisting. Your anxiety about the consequences of their actions will only teach them either how to appease you or resist you.
Now that you are able to date again, you jumped in with enthusiasm, only to be reminded of your dissatisfying past experiences.
Some people may think it is cruel to not marry a boy because of their family background, but be forewarned: even if he is remorseful about the way he treats his mother, he will most certainly repeat it with you.
It’s hard for people to understand children can have a learning disability that affects only writing. Most people assume if you have no trouble reading, then writing should be a cinch.
It can certainly be uncomfortable to mingle and connect with other guests solely to bolster and expand your shidduch reputation and reach.
Positive thinking has wonderful effects on your mind as well as your body. It lowers stress levels, which in turn affects every part of your being.
What if your child is not simply a late bloomer? What if he needs early intervention in order to help him attain language?
I always say that an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure. If we can all learn how to parent effectively, then this world would be a better place.
You wonder how to convince girls that you are in fact a good bet, without the promise of a glitzy future.
If you are experiencing crippling anxiety, there are four different approaches that you can take in order to make your life more manageable and enjoyable.
Most medical doctors treat OCD with medication to calm the amygdala. She was informed by her doctor that OCD could not be cured, but with medication it could be maintained. The fact remains that the medication's side effects were worse than the OCD itself.
Each year, he explodes in anger at me and our children for no good reason, other than that he is physically and mentally exhausted and drained.
You want to move forward, but worry that your varying views may cause friction in the future. You want to make it work, and want to know how that can be done.
We all start life the same way – as babies completely dependent on others for even our most basic needs... The older we become, however, the more control we gain. We learn to communicate, move, and interact with others.
While I do agree that the wife and husband should appreciate each other, and constantly praise and validate each other, perhaps it is also unwise to share this praise with their parents.
Perhaps, we are getting closer to the other side and you can’t help but envision a guest-filled wedding day in the location you have always wanted.
Though you might not like to admit it – there is a chance that your child’s stubbornness is genetic.
You have taken the time to learn, to grow, and to make positive inroads in your life. You feel transformed and that makes you want to shed your past and what is represented. Yet, you are still you.
After a significant event, my family went through a very challenging time. Despite it all, my father remained strong and resilient in the face of adversity.
Creating schedules and setting timers can help those with ADHD harness their natural energy and direct it towards their passion.
It is time to move on. What he hopes for or wants at this point is not your concern and only time will tell for him.
My nutritionist has taught me this invaluable lesson and for the first time in my life, I am not on a diet, but rather I am living a healthy, balanced lifestyle that includes all food groups.
Well, Nachi, if you don’t know how to put your shoes on, then we won’t be able to go to your friend’s birthday party. We can’t go outside without shoes on.
When we dress up for our date, we are conveying our care and interest in the outcome.
Comparing yourself to others is a very dangerous thing. It never helps you feel better and often is based on false premises.
Girls use relationships to bully each other. This starts as early as preschool, when a girl realizes the supremacy of “I won’t be your friend anymore.”
Why would someone want to marry me? Why would they take their chances with a girl who has all this baggage when there are so many others around who are more eligible?
You are certainly no dummy. Clever is the name of your game. Reaching out for help is always the right thing to do.
Using your successful relationship with your parents as a guide, you will be better equipped to maintain long-term relationships in the future.
What did she have children for if not to personally and lovingly raise her precious jewels?
You are two individuals, and having varied interests should not only be expected, but can be encouraged.
Out of nowhere, Ruti would feel herself growing annoyed without even understanding why she was upset.
It is always a blessing to find someone that you connect with. But in the often-complicated world of shidduchim, your psyche has thrown a wrench at your potential future together.
One important thing I have learned through making my own mistakes was to not approach single individuals at simchas or coming out of shul.
Helping divorced couples remarry may seem unorthodox, but I have actually been involved in such cases and have, with siyatta d'Shmaya, helped divorced couples, who wanted to reconcile, remarry each other successfully.
Second guessing your decision when it comes to shidduchim is so difficult where clarity is the greatest gift you can ask for.
Pay attention to what your daughter is learning in school. Are women represented? See if there is a way to incorporate more positive role models.
It takes a certain sensitivity to do marital therapy. The therapist should try to put themselves in the client’s shoes and try to be careful not to open up issues that the couple will have to live with later and not have the tools to deal with.
It can be hard to adjust and pivot in order to arrange a date, especially with someone who lives out of state.
Just this past week two families related that they had been contemplating the purchase of a medical alert device but had pushed off the process... until one of their family members fell at home and spent the entire night on the floor alone, unable to call for help.
Your letter was difficult to read. I hear your frustration so clearly in every word you wrote and how baffled you are by something that seems so clear to you.
You might wonder why someone in my field is writing about this topic. The truth is that we have all seen that isolation is rampant and a secondary symptom of this pandemic.
Seasonal affective disorder, also known as winter depression, is a real thing. It is a type of depressive disorder that only tends to surface during the winter months.
Sure, she has been the bright and shiny option for so long, giving you the ability to remain in the shadows. But she never put you in the background, you allowed yourself to be placed there.
It is human nature to look forward to a milestone, to say, “by next Pesach, we will be back to normal and celebrating together.” The problem with that is when next Pesach comes and things remain the same, you will feel crestfallen and distraught.
Ultimately, that high that your wife gets from shopping will not last long term, as stuff will not make her happy.
The only way to build trust is to share. This is scary because it makes us vulnerable. When we share with someone, we are hoping that they will safeguard our secrets and never use them to hurt us.
While those who suffer from SAD syndrome generally begin to feel the effects once we change the clock and the days get shorter, these symptoms have been intensified by Covid-19 and the way that the pandemic has changed our life.
Keeping communication open is very important. This is crucial for all children, so you can detect any issues or problems early on.
It is perfectly normal to have a specific vision for your future and can even be helpful in helping you to achieve and grow. Presumably however, you have dated people with these criteria and have not yet found the person for you.
Some of the anxiety associated with math comes from the need to be perfect, to always get the right answer.
Dr. Yael’s answer to this unfortunate mother was that she felt sorry for “what happened to you and to your family.”
Some daters and couples simply need more time because more often than not, both parties don’t develop a connection at the exact same rate.
How can you notice this imbalance in your children? Pay attention to the way they speak.
No one should ever feel inferior because they needed to use medication to help them overcome their depression, anxiety, or any other emotional difficulties.
The only thing that meal planning does not account for is “the toddler.” The toddler you see, always holds that one card that can’t be contested...
Your friends are seemingly dating with excitement and you don’t share their enthusiasm for a future that you are not ready for.
Both instilling motivation and creating a safe space are integral parts of learning, helping students feel that they both want to learn and that the conditions are right for learning.
I am so sorry about what happened to you and to your family. Please don’t feel guilty. You had no idea this would happen.
Yes, your daughter may be moody, but she needs positive attention and love, not negativity.
Your sister and her clear thrill at being engaged satisfied your friends and family while your calm demeanor worries them and now you; begging the question, “Do I feel enough?”
Improving our social thinking begins with improving self-awareness, and is a skill that is used for much more than having successful social interactions.
Using imagery with deep breathing usually makes the techniques more effective and generally helps people maintain their focus better.
Unfortunately, doing the right thing doesn’t always feel good. The pain after self-sacrifice can feel extremely hurtful as you are already putting aside your own singular happiness.
Whether your child is at home or in school learning, incorporate brain breaks – time for movement that can actually jump start the brain.
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